It's one of the most basic laws of psychology that deserves repetition and constant re-examination because it doesn't reach those who really need to hear it.
When people have a bad childhood, they grow up to reject love as adults.
At a societal level, we continue to believe in uncomplicated ways that what everyone wants is love.
This is desperately untrue.
Anyone who has not enjoyed love in childhood, who's not been the recipient of cozy, comforting, and supportive treatment as a small person, will not feel comfortable at all when love comes along in later life.
They will do their utmost to sabotage love and to hide from themselves that this is what they're up to.
They will be utterly convinced that they are interested in love.
They will swear on a first date that all they want is a happy relationship and maybe marriage quite soon, and then they will make resolutely sure that no happiness is possible and that misery is the only option for them.
They will do this in two main ways.
Firstly, by choosing people who are not interested in giving love.
